Anami Grace | Made Up Life

Y’all it’s imperative that on difficult days that you spend extra time and energy caring for your human body. Because when you treat yourself with the utmost care and compassion, especially on challenging days, it allows you to expand your presence for the world and treat everyone with the care and compassion you’ve given yourself. Here is an incomplete list of how I’ve helped myself and treated myself like someone having a hard time:

There are two kinds of hard days: the ones you know are coming and the ones that just smack you in the face without any warning. When you know a hard day is coming, please use the same framework to set yourself up for success.

Out loud you’re going to say: I’m having a hard day today, that’s okay. Difficult days are simply opportunities to meet myself through hardship. I am going to love and support myself through today. Please help me to show up for myself.

And then, you’re going to look for ways to show up for you.

Have you eaten? Can you eat? If you can’t eat, how close can you get to getting calories in your body? A smoothie? A piece of candy? We’re not looking for perfection on hard days. We’re just looking for something nutrition adjacent. Okay?

Can you rest? Do you need a nap, a mental break? A walk? A quick connection break with your body? Can you do a 15 minute meditation?

What can you do to improve the space you’re in? Can you dust? Can you sweep? Can you move laundry? Is there a picture you can hang that reminds you that better days are coming?

How about movement? Can you do a somatic practice? Can you go for a walk? Can you go put your head on a tree? How can you interact with nature?

What about your clothes? Can you change into something more comfy? Or cute? Or can you take a break and learn how to style your outfit in a way that makes you feel better about yourself?

Once your human body has been addressed we can help you hold the emotions that come with a hard day. But you CANNOT hold safety in your emotions until your physical body has been addressed.

Now your emotional body is a different monster. Right? Because emotions are simply 90 second hormone surges that move through your body, but we often try and hold onto them as artifacts from our experience of life – and we cannot do that and hold ourselves in wholeness.

They are visiting teachers, coming to allow us to know ourselves through the experience of them.

So when an emotion comes to visit it’s important to know how to move their visit through your human body, learn from them, and let them go as friends. Don’t be rude to them, introduce yourself. I always treat my emotions like they’re people. Hi Anger, my name is Anami Grace, thank you so much for visiting me today (Hahaha, sometimes I growl this at anger to really get my point across.) So when they come to visit here are a few questions to ask them: What are you here to show me? How can I hold your visit through my body better? Where is the expansion? What are you in my body? What do I need to do about moving the energy of you through me?

In any emotional practice it’s incredibly important that you protect your energy and only hold on to what is yours.

I’m so incredibly thankful to hold all of this with y’all. Being human on planet earth is really rough some days. However, when we can hold ourselves with a little more love and compassion it really helps us to show up differently for our communities and ourselves. But most importantly. Ourselves.

Love and light to y’all. Take care! Bye.